Lori Hoeck

Have you ever been so perplexed by a relationship that it drove you crazy? Perhaps you are in one right now.

Do you feel like you’re the one who is always wrong?
Do attempts to set boundaries only meet with disdain and anger?
Are new suggestions shot down or sabotaged?
Do attempts to withdraw from the relationship create more firestorms of drama?

You just might be dealing with narcissist.

Don’t you wish there was a resource you could access that would explain what was going on and give you some answers?

Betsy Wuebker of PassingThru.com and I are collaborators on a new ebook The Narcissist: A User’s Guide. In the free ebook, we discuss such topics as:

• What creates a narcissistic personality?
• Why can involvement with a narcissist hurt you?
• Questions you can ask someone to help determine if they are a narcissist.
• What can I say to set a boundary with a narcissist?
• Is the price of caving in worse?
• Why do some people seem immune to narcissists?

****UPDATE: The ebook, The Narcissist: A User’s Guide, is now available! You can learn more information here or jump right to the download page.****

Our ebook is beautifully and professionally designed by Deb Dorchak of Sirius Graphix. Deb writes about how this came about at the Sirius Graphix website. (Read her take on narcissists in this excellent post: “Sith Lords in the Real World.”)

Betsy says she started this project thinking it would be wonderful if it helped just one person. Read her side of this wonderful story at  What Goes Around, Comes Around.

Here’s one person’s reaction after reading the ebook:

If you’ve ever had to deal with a narcissist, you are going to LOVE “The Narcissist: A User’s Guide” by Betsy Wuebker and Lori Hoeck.

If you’re dealing with a narcissist right now, this ebook is a must. It will show you that you are not alone, that you are NOT crazy, and that there ARE ways to cope with the narcissist in your life – including leaving them, and learning to avoid entering into a new codependent relationship in the future.

I’ve read many self development books and ebooks, and this is by far one of the most empowering guides I have ever come across. Highly recommended!

~Vered DeLeeuw
Professional blogger and social media consultant

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Want to know more?

“Ebook on narcissism is narcissists’ Kryptonite”
http://thinklikeablackbelt.com/blog/ebook-on-narcissism-is-narcissists-kryptonite/

“Sith Lords in the Real World”
http://lifeslittleinspirations.com/sith-lords-in-the-real-world

“What Goes Around, Comes Around”
http://passingthru.com/2010/01/what-goes-around-comes-around

“Nobody Does It Better: Sirius Ebooks”
http://siriusgraphix.com/nobody-does-it-better-sirius-ebookscomes-around/

I’ve never had an ad on my websites, but I’ve discovered something worth shouting about — Tanka Bars.

Having grown tired of carb-laden snacks, sugary snacks, and filler snacks, I wished for something else. My body and mind prefer a certain boost I get from protein. Cheese is great but too many calories. And taking time to fix a meal with chicken or beef, or having to “nuke” leftovers, wasn’t so much fun.

Enter the Tanka Bar! My newest food hero. Tanka Bars are an outrageously tasty, healthy, and fun snack food.

The Tanka Bar is an Authentic Native American Food, made from  historic Lakota recipe combining tasty, satisfying buffalo and sweet-tart cranberry. Yes, buffalo!

I’ve been cooking with ground buffalo for months and love jerky, so I wondered how the Tanka Bar would taste.

From the first bite, the Tanka Bar hit me with one strong thought: This tastes great — like real food. The chewy blend of flavors satisfied my taste buds and a comfort food need.

To my delight, I realized this was like no snack bar I’d ever had. It didn’t taste like something store-bought or pumped with artificial junk. Not too sweet. None of that slight aftertaste that comes with most packaged foods.

I tried two types of Tanka Bars, the regular and the Spicy, Pepper Blend. My family all liked the spicy. That doesn’t mean it’s really spicy, though. A relative who doesn’t usually like things spicy, now raves over the perfect blend of snappy, flavor-laden goodness.

In the bar are 7 grams of protein, only 70 calories, and zero grams of trans fats.

This food-snack is great for:

• Firefighters and EMS people who need more than a candy bar to keep going
• Parents who need a quick boost without having to fix a snack
• Anyone into physical training, sports enthusiasts, or lunch-break exercise folks
• Senior citizens, kids, adults who may not normally choose healthy snacks
• Survival kits at home or in the car
• At work, when the candy machine might otherwise call
• For a quick, out-the-door snack when you’re on the go

Please check out the Tanka  Bar website for more information by clicking on the running image to the right.

Hey, I’m officially an author now!

My first book is an e-book – Think Like a Black Belt – Take Charge of Your Own Safety.

And check out some reviews:

This one is from Betsy Wuebker, written on her blog Passing Thru:

“Think Like a Black Belt – Take Charge of Your Own Safety is a comprehensive guide to mental toughness and personal safety.  Written from the perspective of enabling parents to pass along personal safety and awareness tips to children and teens, Lori’s e-book goes beyond to a more universally valuable approach.  This e-book is for everyone – because everyone at one time or another finds themself in an unsafe situation.

“The Bonus Section is worth the price of the e-book alone. This is an activity set designed to fine tune your senses in your personal daily environment.  This D-I-Y workshop that will have you looking at your world in a fresh way while creating a strong anticipatory mode that will keep you more safe.

“Make no mistake – Lori doesn’t pull any punches.  She is not out to sugar-coat her message.  She is matter of fact, encouraging and ultimately, very convincing.  We can defend ourselves from the bad guys and we can teach our children how to recognize and deal with them, too.”

And this review is from Janice Hunter on her blog Sharing the Journey:

“Please check out Think Like a Black Belt for mental, physical and emotional self defense lessons, especially if you’re a woman or have children …

“Who can benefit? Anyone who walks in public, parks a car, has children, works with others, goes out in the evenings… in short, everyone! We’re talking some of the most practical life skills that can be applied to any situation where you need to be sharp, alert, aware and informed. I let my teenage kids read these posts. I’m anxious by nature, but the tips they’ll learn from the  Think Like a Black Belt ebook and blog will help me breathe a little easier. I bought the book the day it came out!  It covers many topics such as strengthening your inner radar and your psychological and physical defense mechanisms, and teaches us to layer all the skills for greater effect.”

For more information on the book click here.

I also wrote about the e-book on the companion blog, where I write on physical, mental, and emotional self defense. Some recent articles include:

• How intuition helps keep you safe in self defense  part one and two.
• Emotionally abusive predators and their ways: signs and traits and the blame game emotional predators play.
• Basic self defense moves: how to use keys for self defense and how to do a heel palm strike.

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It’s all fascinating and practical information that can keep you safer — and your children, too!

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Thank you for visiting,
Lori Hoeck